From time to time, publications ask us why parents would consider sending their children to boarding school as opposed to leaving them in public school. What follows are my answers to some questions that were recently posed to me. I hope that you find my answers helpful as you weigh the pros and cons of sending your child to boarding school.
1. Why should you consider sending your child to a boarding school, instead of to one of the many private day schools and charter schools in the area?
In a perfect world, most of us parents would decide to send our children to schools that meet all or most of our requirements and needs. When you are fortunate enough to live in an area that has good public schools, then it makes sense to comparison shop carefully. Tune out any prejudices you may have about any kind of school, and try as much as possible to compare apples to apples.
For example, if your child has special needs, you need to look carefully at the quality of instruction that she will receive in order to continue enjoying learning. Boarding schools that offer programs for students with special needs tend to do a good job simply because they offer plenty of individual instruction from experienced, credentialled teachers. The other advantage they have is that most, if not all of their students have some special need of one kind or another. Boarding schools that specialize in learning disabilities such as dyslexia, dyscalculia, memory and retention issues, or dysgraphia, have been doing this for many years. They employ highly experienced, credentialled teachers and staff who can turn even the most gloomy prognoses around.
The Forman School has been educating students with learning differences since 1930 and remains one of the best-known boarding schools specializing in language-based learning differences and ADHD support.
Compare special needs programs in a public school that is facing budget cuts and has to reduce its faculty. Add in the social factor of your child being identified as different. Boarding schools balance their budgets by charging more for their services. When they need another teacher for a critical program, they hire one. Their clientele expects and demands this level of service.
Most boarding schools offer extensive athletic programs. For example, if your child rides, there are dozens of schools that you can consider. The same thing is true of extracurricular activities. Boarding schools consider it their job to educate the whole child, not just teach children how to solve a quadratic equation.
In 2026, many boarding schools have also expanded their wellness, STEM, robotics, entrepreneurship, and outdoor leadership programs to help students develop both academically and personally.
Finally, and this is one of the reasons why we sent both of our daughters off to boarding school for high school, boarding schools offer 24/7 supervision. We were busy parents with demanding careers. We belonged to a couple of local boards. Our hours were long and would have left the girls at loose ends or, worse, driving to a band rehearsal or some other activity in some teenager's car on the winding, hilly roads in Litchfield County, Connecticut. Our custodial worries vanished the minute the girls went off to boarding school.
Families considering whether residential education is the right fit may also want to read Why We Chose Boarding Rather than Day School.
2. What does the boarding school experience offer the child outside of academics?
As mentioned in the previous answer, boarding schools strive to educate the whole child. Schools integrate academics, sports, and extracurricular activities into a comprehensive package. The ancient Roman poet Juvenal's saying mens sana in corpore sano (A healthy mind in a healthy body) applies to a 21st-century boarding school education.
The other fact to bear in mind is that boarding schools will not cut or eliminate sports programs and extracurricular activities. Furthermore, your child's teachers coach most of the sports and extracurricular activities in her boarding school. That's just part of their contracted duties. The effect on the students is very positive as they see their teachers as passionate participants in group activities that teachers and students alike enjoy. Did I mention that sports are compulsory? That's right. Everybody participates. Most schools set aside a weekday afternoon and part of Saturday for sports.
Most boarding school faculty also function as dorm parents as they live in apartments in the dormitories with the students. There is always a reassuring adult presence on hand to help and guide as needed or to simply be there.
Today, many boarding schools also provide expanded mental health services, student wellness initiatives, and peer mentoring programs designed to support students socially and emotionally throughout the school year.
3. What are the benefits of boarding in Europe as opposed to attending an American boarding school?
If you are an expat living in the United States but planning to return to your home country in Europe, it might make sense to send your high school-age children to boarding school back home or leave them there if they have already started school before you move stateside. One of my cousins attended a Swiss boarding school back in the 1950s. When I asked him about his experience, he commented that those were much simpler times. I would tend to agree.
Personally, I would be a nervous wreck if one of my children were attending boarding school overseas in the current climate of global instability and security concerns. I want to be within a 2-hour plane ride at most from my children's school. Each of us has a different comfort zone. Stick to what works for you.
The American School in Switzerland continues to attract international students seeking an American-style education in Europe while offering extensive global travel and cultural immersion opportunities.
4. What are the financial costs of boarding schools, and do they offer any financial aid?
American boarding schools range in cost from approximately $30,000 to more than $75,000 exclusive of sundries in 2026. These figures generally include tuition, room, and board. What are sundries? Those are all the extras, such as laundry, lessons, uniforms, athletic equipment, technology fees, and other miscellaneous charges. Most schools bill you for sundries monthly. You will also have to pay for tuition insurance. You can find all the details about tuition and fees on school websites.
Just about every boarding school I can think of offers financial aid. Aid is based on need, not academics. If your child is accepted to a school, but you cannot afford to send her, you should complete and submit the Parents’ Financial Statement, which is a third-party service of the National Association of Independent Schools. The PFS will determine what they feel you can afford to pay.
The individual schools will make their own determination of how much to award, typically based on the number of requests for financial aid and the size of the financial aid pool. Several schools now offer free or significantly reduced tuition to families earning under certain income thresholds, although those thresholds vary from school to school.
5. Do you have any tips and suggestions for knowing if your child is ready for the freedom and responsibility of staying away from home for an extended period?
While your child will be away from home, she will not be unsupervised. Boarding schools pride themselves on creating communities with close bonds. Every member of that community counts. Somebody will know and will report an unhappy child.
Boarding schools don't have the kind of social stratification that seems to occur in public schools. There are no jocks, geeks, nerds, and so on. Students attend boarding school to learn. So there is no stigma to being smart. Bullying in all its forms is very rare. It would be grounds for severe disciplinary measures if it did take place.
Missouri Military Academy remains one example of a boarding school environment focused on structure, leadership, and character development away from home.
Essentially, what I am saying is that your child will have left the familiar surroundings of her home and her circle of friends. She will now be in a safe, secure place in the company of dozens of new, like-minded friends.
Frankly, and I say this as a father who knows, having your child leave home is more upsetting to us parents. Gone are the familiar sounds of music, the anguished cries of "Mommy! Where are my jeans?" and all the other signs of teenage presence which we take very much for granted until they are not there.
Fret not. You will soon be picking her up from the airport. She will have her newest best friend in tow. And they will have a lot of shopping to do.
For additional perspectives on boarding school life and common misconceptions, read Boarding School Myths and 10 Facts About Boarding Schools
Conclusion
Choosing a boarding school is a deeply personal decision that depends on your child’s academic needs, personality, maturity, and long-term goals. While boarding schools are not the right fit for every family, they continue to offer a uniquely immersive educational experience that combines rigorous academics, close-knit communities, extensive extracurricular opportunities, and meaningful personal growth. As you compare your options in 2026, focus not only on rankings or reputation, but also on the environment where your child will feel supported, challenged, and inspired to thrive.
